Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Thinking before I speak

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{Waiting before "Toddler Talk" Class}

Words can be so powerful. Using the wrong ones can reek havoc on making new friends or keeping old ones. Saying the wrong thing is something I do more often than I like and trying to leave a voice mail for anyone is awful because it ends up being like 5-10 minutes long and I trip on words and get easily distracted. Being a Stay at home momma, its so rare that I actually get to sit and talk with other adults. It's even harder to find something to talk about besides my kids, the businesses I run or daily ins and outs.

So last week at Chloe's toddler talk class I was chit chatting with two other moms about those little vacuums and how our kids are scared of the vacuum. I am trying to make friends and enter the conversation by saying that I chase the kids around the house with our vacuum all the time. They both looked at me like they were horrified that I just said that, but immediately start talking amoungst themselves. I should have interrupted and said, "My kids love it. They love thrill and find 'scary stuff', fun", but I didn't get the chance for the rest of the class because both my kids were keeping me busy and 1 seemed to be throwing a tantrum for the rest of the session. I left class thinking, "OMG I can't believe they think I am some mom who tortures her kids for fun". I just shaking my head over and over all the while hoping that they would forget out it.

Well, this week I headed in and got both girls set up and playing happily. Later I noticed that the women were on the other side of the room and went over to try and start up a conversation; However, I was quite surprised when they both turned around and ignored me! I felt like I was just shunned from the cool girls on the playground. It was awful. What is this high school? Any way, for the rest of class I was trying to not let it get to me so at one point I started tossing little Carli in the air (not high) and she was laughing so hard and once her laugh caught the attention of the other women I said immediately, "My kids just loved to be scared. They are definitely thrill seekers". Which totally worked because after I said that they both continued to talk to me.

Lesson learned. Fix a "Whoops statement" before it gets out of hand. I almost was shunned from the toddler talk moms and lost out of possible play dates for my kids.

My mother always use to tell me to think about what you are about to say before you say it, and today her words really spoke to me.

Do you ever find yourself in a "whoopy statement"? I want to know I am not the only one (Insert smiley face here). 

{After "Toddler Talk"}
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  1. You are not the only one!! I posted my palm to face moment here.....hope you get a little chuckle out of it.

    1. I so loved your post! I am your newest follower too!

  2. I can't believe they treated you like that! I think us moms should stop judging each other, we get enough criticism from non-parents who have no idea.

    Saw your ad on the Oh So Nifty blog and decided to check you out, glad I did! Newest follower :)

    1. I still can't believe they actually turned their backs to me too... It was just so obvious and mean. At least it allowed me to know that I could never be that mean to some one else. :) p.s. I am your newest follower

  3. Oh Mandi this made me laugh! I am so shocked moms would act that way before really getting to know you and personally I would find it hilarious if some random mom was like "Ya, I chase my kids with my vacuum" I would obviously want to know more haha!